I recall looking up the word for a female misogynist, only I typed in women who hate other women. This topic really is not talked about enough in mental health or psychology circles. I grew up with one, so the female misogynist comes up on my radar pretty quick.
While I did look for a clinical definition, all I found was athe dictionary definition of a woman who hates other women.
I liken living with a female misogynist as a woman to a reality version of a twisted Cinderella. Except the contempt of a stepmother towards Cinderella is carried about by the “real” mother.
What does she look like?
Think Cruella de Vil, the evil female antagonist who never gets her puppy coat from The One Hundred and One Dalmationsmovies.
Upon researching for this article, found much discussion about women and misogyny in relation to a woman’s station in life. I began thinking about how women in our country held traditional female roles of marriage and raising children, or they find a profession or hold some sort of job.
A misogynist thinks that women who do not work “get what they deserve.” She believes this because she hates her children and her husband. Likewise, she believes that we hate her because she works.
Yet, this whole work issue really is not the problem.
Her delusional viewpoint is the real problem. She wants all the power she can threaten and coerce to achieve her grand delusion.
The female misogynist hates her children
It really seems so impossible as a normal mother who loves her children, but it does occur. Women who are so disconnected with their emotions turn on their families and their children, especially. A few misogynistic women kill their children.
While only 11% of all serial killers are femaleover the past 100 years, they do exist. Yet, just because a woman finds no love in her heart for her children does not mean that she will kill them.
Because the relationship between a mother and child holds a unique bond, she can easily destroy her child’s emotional psyche with a dismissive and then attacking persona.
Over-pushing children to the point of breaking their spirits sets children up for failure. Most people know that a woman’s maternal and wifely drive holds the family up. So, when a female misogynist becomes a mother, things go seriously wrong.
A Female Misogynist loves tyrants
The sick twistedness of marital bliss with a female misogynist lies in his carrying out her bidding to oppress and abuse those whom she hates. I think about the story of Jezebel in the Bible and her relationship with her husband King Ahab.
King Ahab was king over Israel, but when he married Jezebel, she seduced him into worshipping Baal, over the Hebrew GOD. When people questioned her power and authority, she sought out their lives. One of her major adversaries was the prophet Elijah, whom she furiously vowed to kill. Several times, she sent King Ahab after him, so Elijah ran from their murderous attempts to kill him. (1 Kings 18:19-19:3)
At one point, they even killed a man because King Ahab wanted the poor man’s inherited vineyard. (1 Kings 21:5-16). Fortunately, King Ahab died in battle, but it took ten years for Jezebel’s reign to end with her life.
Behind a thriving evil woman lies an even more evil man who destroys anything that gets in his way to have whatever he wants.
Yet, she is also a misandrist
A female misogynist is also a misandrist or someone who hates men. Start with a woman who is disconnected from her human emotions and you end up with a woman who hates everyone.
Not only does a woman like this create a household of hate, but she carries it out into the world, even professionally. Hateful women seem to carry their hate in exploitative and abusive ways.
If men refuse to carry out their psychotic edicts, then she turns her hate against men.
She is at least a narcissist
To hold such hate and contempt against other people, a female misogynist wants nothing more than to control everyone. But, the twist of this is that it isn’t about her duties to her family and community, her primary objective is to force everyone into her delusion.
Incapable of seeing the real world around her, she thinks and holds on only to the real coverup—her emotional trauma from her childhood. And, unfortunately, she will destroy herself trying to force and threaten the world into compliance with her delusion.
And yes, it is insane.
So, great, how do we stop her?
While I cannot just hand you the silver bullet, what I can do is help you come up with a solution of your own. Consider these truths about a narcissist.
- She is only focused on her delusion and how to control you to play along.
- Her lies will trip her up.
- Narcissists will always overstep even their own boundaries.
- Keeping them out of your personal life says no to their control.
- She thinks she can control how you think.
If you need more reading on handling narcissists, read other articles in this series.
In fact, usually, a woman like this holds a power-focused delusion as her whole worldview. She lost all touch with herself as a woman and cannot accept her femininity and weaknesses as a female. Whatever pain and trauma affected her so negatively, triggered a reaction of self-preservation through misogyny.
Female Misogyny is not just a character
While quite often, female misogyny has been identified more with Twitter comments and self-degrading statements by other women, it also brings on attacks by hateful women in the workplace, in our communities, and online.
While they may not be serial killers or go to jail for committing crimes, their spiteful, mean attacks do not go unnoticed by the victims. Further, they isolate themselves with their delusions and find themselves spiraling when no one appreciates their delusional ideals.
Their ability to control themselves emotionally creates a hard shell to crack and get close to. And typically, they drink down their fury to smoothen their appearance, but quickly come out of hiding when the drink wears off.
Handle her with care and buy a ticket to peace.
